diff --git a/router/connection_maker.go b/router/connection_maker.go
index 4bef62db..85775fd2 100644
--- a/router/connection_maker.go
+++ b/router/connection_maker.go
@@ -10,6 +10,7 @@ import (
 const (
 	InitialInterval = 2 * time.Second
 	MaxInterval     = 6 * time.Minute
+	ResetAfter      = 1 * time.Minute
 )
 
 type peerAddrs map[string]*net.TCPAddr
@@ -25,9 +26,17 @@ type ConnectionMaker struct {
 	actionChan  chan<- ConnectionMakerAction
 }
 
+type TargetState int
+
+const (
+	TargetWaiting    TargetState = iota // we are waiting to connect there
+	TargetAttempting                    // we are attempting to connect there
+	TargetConnected                     // we are connected to there
+)
+
 // Information about an address where we may find a peer
 type Target struct {
-	attempting  bool          // are we currently attempting to connect there?
+	state       TargetState
 	lastError   error         // reason for disconnection last time
 	tryAfter    time.Time     // next time to try this address
 	tryInterval time.Duration // retry delay on next failure
@@ -73,7 +82,7 @@ func (cm *ConnectionMaker) InitiateConnections(peers []string, replace bool) []e
 			cm.directPeers[peer] = addr
 			// curtail any existing reconnect interval
 			if target, found := cm.targets[addr.String()]; found {
-				target.tryNow()
+				target.nextTryNow()
 			}
 		}
 		return true
@@ -92,7 +101,10 @@ func (cm *ConnectionMaker) ForgetConnections(peers []string) {
 
 func (cm *ConnectionMaker) ConnectionAborted(address string, err error) {
 	cm.actionChan <- func() bool {
-		cm.retry(address, err)
+		target := cm.targets[address]
+		target.state = TargetWaiting
+		target.lastError = err
+		target.nextTryLater()
 		return true
 	}
 }
@@ -101,7 +113,8 @@ func (cm *ConnectionMaker) ConnectionCreated(conn Connection) {
 	cm.actionChan <- func() bool {
 		cm.connections[conn] = void
 		if conn.Outbound() {
-			delete(cm.targets, conn.RemoteTCPAddr())
+			target := cm.targets[conn.RemoteTCPAddr()]
+			target.state = TargetConnected
 		}
 		return false
 	}
@@ -111,7 +124,17 @@ func (cm *ConnectionMaker) ConnectionTerminated(conn Connection, err error) {
 	cm.actionChan <- func() bool {
 		delete(cm.connections, conn)
 		if conn.Outbound() {
-			cm.retry(conn.RemoteTCPAddr(), err)
+			target := cm.targets[conn.RemoteTCPAddr()]
+			target.state = TargetWaiting
+			target.lastError = err
+			switch {
+			case err == ErrConnectToSelf:
+				target.nextTryNever()
+			case time.Now().After(target.tryAfter.Add(ResetAfter)):
+				target.nextTryNow()
+			default:
+				target.nextTryLater()
+			}
 		}
 		return true
 	}
@@ -151,8 +174,8 @@ func (cm *ConnectionMaker) checkStateAndAttemptConnections() time.Duration {
 		if _, found := cm.targets[address]; found {
 			return
 		}
-		target := &Target{}
-		target.tryNow()
+		target := &Target{state: TargetWaiting}
+		target.nextTryNow()
 		cm.targets[address] = target
 	}
 
@@ -238,7 +261,7 @@ func (cm *ConnectionMaker) connectToTargets(validTarget map[string]struct{}, dir
 	now := time.Now() // make sure we catch items just added
 	after := MaxDuration
 	for address, target := range cm.targets {
-		if target.attempting {
+		if target.state != TargetWaiting {
 			continue
 		}
 		if _, valid := validTarget[address]; !valid {
@@ -250,7 +273,7 @@ func (cm *ConnectionMaker) connectToTargets(validTarget map[string]struct{}, dir
 		}
 		switch duration := target.tryAfter.Sub(now); {
 		case duration <= 0:
-			target.attempting = true
+			target.state = TargetAttempting
 			_, isCmdLineTarget := directTarget[address]
 			go cm.attemptConnection(address, isCmdLineTarget)
 		case duration < after:
@@ -268,27 +291,19 @@ func (cm *ConnectionMaker) attemptConnection(address string, acceptNewPeer bool)
 	}
 }
 
-func (cm *ConnectionMaker) retry(address string, err error) {
-	if target, found := cm.targets[address]; found {
-		target.attempting = false
-		target.lastError = err
-		target.retry()
-	}
+func (t *Target) nextTryNever() {
+	t.tryAfter = time.Time{}
+	t.tryInterval = MaxInterval
 }
 
-func (t *Target) tryNow() {
+func (t *Target) nextTryNow() {
 	t.tryAfter = time.Now()
 	t.tryInterval = InitialInterval
 }
 
 // The delay at the nth retry is a random value in the range
 // [i-i/2,i+i/2], where i = InitialInterval * 1.5^(n-1).
-func (t *Target) retry() {
-	if t.lastError == ErrConnectToSelf {
-		t.tryAfter = time.Time{}
-		t.tryInterval = MaxInterval
-		return
-	}
+func (t *Target) nextTryLater() {
 	t.tryAfter = time.Now().Add(t.tryInterval/2 + time.Duration(rand.Int63n(int64(t.tryInterval))))
 	t.tryInterval = t.tryInterval * 3 / 2
 	if t.tryInterval > MaxInterval {
diff --git a/router/status.go b/router/status.go
index a2e5ad56..bbb10d41 100644
--- a/router/status.go
+++ b/router/status.go
@@ -173,23 +173,28 @@ func NewLocalConnectionStatusSlice(cm *ConnectionMaker) []LocalConnectionStatus
 			slice = append(slice, LocalConnectionStatus{conn.RemoteTCPAddr(), conn.Outbound(), state, conn.Remote().String()})
 		}
 		for address, target := range cm.targets {
-			var state, info string
-			switch {
-			case target.lastError == nil:
-				state = "connecting"
-				info = ""
-			case target.attempting:
-				state = "retrying"
-				info = target.lastError.Error()
-			default:
-				state = "failed"
-				retry := "never"
+			add := func(state, info string) {
+				slice = append(slice, LocalConnectionStatus{address, true, state, info})
+			}
+			switch target.state {
+			case TargetWaiting:
+				until := "never"
 				if !target.tryAfter.IsZero() {
-					retry = target.tryAfter.String()
+					until = target.tryAfter.String()
 				}
-				info = target.lastError.Error() + ", retry: " + retry
+				if target.lastError == nil { // shouldn't happen
+					add("waiting", "until: "+until)
+				} else {
+					add("failed", target.lastError.Error()+", retry: "+until)
+				}
+			case TargetAttempting:
+				if target.lastError == nil {
+					add("connecting", "")
+				} else {
+					add("retrying", target.lastError.Error())
+				}
+			case TargetConnected:
 			}
-			slice = append(slice, LocalConnectionStatus{address, true, state, info})
 		}
 		resultChan <- slice
 		return false